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Embracing the Curiosity 🌟
Play ideas, a book, a song and a little encouragement for your 46 month old, from Maddie.
By Maddie, early childhood educator and Mum
5 min read · Updated
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Hello, wonderful parent!
As you find yourself in Month 46, you may notice those endless questions and bursts of energy flowing more than ever. The newfound curiosity in your little one is both exciting and, let's be honest, a bit exhausting at times! But amidst the whirlwind of “whys” and the endless motion, there's so much connection and discovery happening.
Remember, you're doing enough. Even on the days when it feels like you're simply keeping up, your child isn't measuring how much you do, they're remembering how it feels to be with you.
By four, it can feel like the pressure ramps up. Sport, dance, gymnastics, swimming, music, theatre... it's easy to wonder if they're missing out. But they don't need a calendar full of activities to have a rich childhood.
Some of the most meaningful moments happen right at home, kicking a ball around the backyard, reading "just one more" story, singing songs in the car, painting masterpieces at the kitchen table, building cubbies, or simply having the time to follow their own ideas. These unhurried moments give children something many scheduled activities can't: space to imagine, create, solve problems, and discover who they are; this is where strong foundations for learning and development really take hold.
There will be plenty of time for organised activities as they grow. For now, know that choosing a slower pace isn't giving them less; it's giving them more. More time. More freedom. More play. More connection. 🤍
At this age, it’s the everyday moments that matter most; the time with you, the songs, the laughter, the little shared experiences. The extras are fun, but there is so much time for them. For now, go slow and enjoy what you do together, the simple and the extra 🤍
Let's dive in with playful curiosity and steady warmth.
Activity 1 : Simple Muffin Mixing (or “Dump & Stir”)
How: Choose a simple recipe like muffins or banana bread and let your child be the main helper. You can pre-measure the ingredients before you start and then let them
Tip everything into the bowl
Stir and mix
Mash bananas or pour liquids
have a go at cracking the eggs
Spoon the mixture into trays
Why:
💪 Builds hand strength and coordination
🧠 Supports early maths (measuring, counting)
💛 Encourages independence and confidence
💬 Creates natural opportunities for conversation
Cooking at this age isn’t about perfection, its going to be messy, clunky and take alot longer… you will probably also feel like taking over, or holding your breath, try and take a breath, and take it slow...it’s all about being involved, feeling capable, and sharing something together (plus, they’re always more excited to eat what they helped make 😉) ( But if you try it and its not for you, or you don't really think its something you'd enjoy, that is ok! I can assure you the photos above make it look a lot calmer than what it really was!)
☀️ Shadow Fun
How: Head outside on a sunny day and become shadow explorers! Start by finding your shadow and noticing what happens when you move; can you make your shadow jump, dance, stretch tall or curl up small? Try making funny shadow shapes with your bodies, copying each other’s movements, or see if you can “catch” someone’s shadow. Use chalk to trace around your shadows and check back later to see how they have changed as the sun moves across the sky. You could even create a shadow obstacle course where children have to follow their shadow’s path.
Why: Shadow play encourages children to explore light, movement and the world around them while building curiosity and early scientific thinking. As they notice their shadow changing size, shape and position, they are developing observation skills, problem-solving and an understanding of cause and effect. Moving, balancing and creating shapes with their bodies also supports coordination, body awareness and imaginative play. ☀️👣
EXTRA 🧽 Activity: Cleaning Station
Need to do some cleaning? Grab a cloth and a spray bottle filled with water, and invite your child to help clean a space, windows, toys, or the table. At this age, children love doing real, meaningful tasks, and being trusted with something “important” can light them up. As they wipe, spray, and repeat, they’re building coordination, focus, and a strong sense of capability… that feeling of “I can do this” ✨ They may even start washing the dishes on their own...
Song of the Month: The Hokey Pokey
Put your left arm in, put your left arm out,
put your left arm in and shake it all about…
You do the Hokey Pokey and you turn around;
that’s what it’s all about!
Then continue with: right arm, left leg, right leg, head… and of course, bottom 😄
This is one of those songs that can be adapted any way you like; sing half of it, change the words, make it silly… it really doesn’t matter. The kids are just there for the shaking, the turning, and that big “ooohhh!” moment.
And if singing’s not your thing, there are plenty of fun versions you can pop on and enjoy together 🎶
Book of the Month: The Magic Hat
A joyful, high-energy story that little ones love ✨ With its playful rhyme and repetition, it’s perfect for reading out loud; fast, slow, silly, or dramatic.
It invites children to join in, predict what’s coming next, and laugh along, making it feel just as much like a performance as a story.
Did You Know?
Around 3 years old, children ask a lot of questions; and it’s not just to get answers. They’re actually learning how conversations work, testing ideas, and figuring out how the world fits together.
So when it feels like a constant stream of “why?”… it’s really their brain hard at work, building curiosity and understanding one question at a time 💛
Remember you don't always have to have all the answers. Its more about the conversation, "I don't know, that's an interesting question"or "hhmm yeah thats a good question, what do you think? " a good responses.
Social & Emotional Skill Building
Sometimes, pausing for a moment before offering help allows your little one to try things on their own. When they’re reaching to put a puzzle piece in place or struggling to zip up a coat, wait just a beat. That quiet moment can tell them you trust their abilities.
In those seconds, confidence takes tiny roots, and they learn that their efforts are valuable.
Remember, your gentle presence and patient listening are what truly supports your child’s learning journey. It’s not about doing everything flawlessly; it’s about showing up, day by day, with open-hearted encouragement.
You're doing beautifully. 🌻